Ambion…Not Just for Adults…
June 22, 2007 8:55 am
Sleep deprived infants should have some type of medication that can be prescribed to them to actually get some sleep. Adults have it. Why can’t infants? Especially four week old infants. My baby thinks that her “ambion” is my shoulder or my legs or my arms. If she’s crying uncontrollably in her crib (although she’s exhausted behind measure….as is her mother), the moment I console her for a quick moment, she’s snoring. Why is that? Why, if she’s so tired, can’t her cries just turn into sound sleep? How long will she fight this sleeping on her own?
I’m not a mother that holds her baby all day long, so I don’t think I’ve spoiled her in that–in the fact that she can’t be put down. She loves to be in her chair, in her swing, and on the floor playing with Brodie when she’s awake. But the moment she’s tired….the last thing she wants is her COMFORTABLE, expensive, soft, Pottery Barn Kids sheets….and its the first thing I’d take b/c I’m so tired from her crying all the time.
I’ve read the books; I’ve consulted friends (many with different view points), and all say, let her cry it out. Console her after 15-20 minutes, and then leave her alone. It seems this goes on for HOURS until her next feeding (mind you, this is all normally during the late morning hours, so technically its not a 24/7, although it sure feels like it). I know babies have fussy points. I get that. It’s just very difficult to hear others and read books that say, hey, in two days, little baby sally was sleeping by herself. URG. I hate those mothers. Sorry if you are one of them. 
B/c it’s been five days now that I’ve tried this, and yes, I’m a woman that wants quick results. (Read previous blogs and you’ll know my personal issues, I have many). So, will this be weeks of waiting and putting her down and letting her cry and feeling like a loser mother? Is this what I signed up for? I sat in my recliner yesterday while she was crying and I was consoling her (yea yea, I was crying, too, ok), thinking, “Um, yeah, I can’t do this anymore.”
There’s light at the end of the tunnel. I know that’s what you are going to tell me. And I appreciate your kind words. Just like labor/delivery, not as bad as I thought, and now that its been four weeks, seems like worlds away and truly no big deal. Even with being in the NICU for 10 days…seems like forever ago and the hardest thing in our lives to deal with….now has been two weeks, and again, we dealt with it. So, this is another one of those moments. Yea for me.
I do love my child. Please know that. Blogs are meant to be truthful and honest. So if this offends you, you can stop reading. If you are a mother yourself, then you know how I feel. If you are a mother and you don’t know how I feel, then you offend me. JK. I’m not that mean.
7 Responses to “Ambion…Not Just for Adults…”
I was waiting for your next blog and I’m glad you wrote something. I have nothing to say about it…duh, but I did want you to know that I’m very glad to see your honesty and frustration which is sometimes so hard to put out there.
No words of advice and no inspirational messages (you know them all already), just a quick I love you and I’ll be glad to see you and your crying baby soon…kidding
It’s lame, but all I have to say is “hang in there!” You’re certainly not alone - I and every mom I’ve talked to has had this same experience (ie - sitting on the couch/bed/floor/crazyhouse with the baby while you’re both crying). I still look back at those moments as some of the toughest I’ve had to face: There’s nothing harder than watching your baby cry and feeling like you can’t do anything to comfort her… though it sounds like it’s not YOU comforting her that’s the problem. haha
Things will get better, I promise! And before you know it, you’ll turn around and she’ll be potty-trained and away at college (in that order, we hope), and you’ll be able to look back at these times with much more fondness than you would imagine. Even now I have a soft spot in my heart for those days, and I’m only a few months away.
And BTW, she’s gettind darn cuter every day!! I’m sure you’ve heard that a million times already but it’s so true!
Hey Woman!
I have to agree with the two comments above:
(a) Tatum is honestly a beautiful child! Every baby is cute but Tatume is gorgeous!
(b) Hang in there! My theory (albeit not very scientific) is that the first three months of a child’s life are all about surviving! Once those months have passed, it’s time to worry about Babywise, schedules, etc. Just do whatever works to keep yourself, your child, and your husband sane, fed, healthy and happy! Soon enough, you will look back on this as a hard time but one you wouldn’t trade for anything because it’s a bonding experience - we all bond more through times that require sacrifice, even with our kids.
Hey Summer. I know how your feeling. From someone who just became a mom. Babies, girls more than boys, get colic where they cry for no apparent reason for the first few months. I’ve read that you can give the baby manzanilla tea for the stomach. i know my daughter would cry and cry but once i had her in my arms she would stop crying. Well my friend told me about giving her milicon that also helps with the gas. I gave her those and she didnt go through that at all anymore. i hope this helps you. Take care and she is SOOO cute!!
Like Michelle said, she might have colic. Zoan had it and we used gripe water. you can get it at health food stores and Babies R Us. Little Zoan just couldn’t pass gas or poop on her own. We had what we called the “fart button” I’d lay her on my lap and push her knees into her chest after giving her the gripe water. Instantly she’d pass the gas and be happy again! I’m praying for you guys! Another piece of advice someone gave me… Your list for the day is #1 Keep the baby fed and happy. Other than that, if other things get done, great, if not, who cares, the baby got taken care of and sometimes that’s all that will get done, and you’ve been a great mom no matter what! Dirty laundry included!
Hang in there guys!!!! The first couple months are difficult. Tatum will start sleeping more and feeding less. this is about the time babies go through a growth spurt!! try and get your rest as well! your frustration is such a normal part of parenting.
Umm as a mother of two girls who are now out of the nest…enjoy…E N J O Y every minute of it….they really REALLY do grow up and leave that nest…then it leaves you thinking…”Now what?”
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